So, this article serves to celebrate my first full-fledged “foodie” piece which was just published online. I simply loved spending time in Madison, Florida.
The foodie article is only focused on…you guessed it… food, and only uses the highest quality food photos.
I decided to post additional (Bonus) photos here that include not only food but also places and people. These are some of the nicest folks you could ever find. The town is small, sweet, and so pretty.
A Photo Essay of sorts with just thirteen sweet and simple pictures.
Lake Frances
Four Freedoms Park with Courthouse in background
Norris Café (focus on the good)
Grumpy’s
Smackin’ Lips
Cucinella’s
C & D Bistro
Special shout outs and Thank Yous to:
(1) Chris & Amanda at Norris Cafe https://www.facebook.com/norriscafemadison
(2) Jessica at Grumpy’s https://www.facebook.com/GrumpysDinerMadison
(3) Marv and Mary at Smackin’ Lips https://www.facebook.com/SmackinLipsDiner
(4) Jonathan&Karon at Cucinella’s https://www.facebook.com/CucinellasBrickOven
(5) Dan at C&D Bistro https://www.facebook.com/cdbistro
The happy musician played his accordion while I pondered the true meaning of the word “lagniappe” and devoured my fried alligator. The goal of this journey was two-fold: to interview locals, and to learn why the idea of lagniappe (that little something extra) is preciously prevalent in this region. My toes tapped as I ordered the bread pudding, knowing most would end up in a to-go box.
Jimmy LaGrange is the man with the most melodic Cajun accent and General Manager of Randol’s Restaurant https://www.facebook.com/RandolsRestaurant/ who answered my many questions about this famous restaurant and the band. I asked patrons about local beliefs and customs. We talked about lagniappe, art, food, the nutria, the Rougarou, Mardi Gras, and things I should see while in town. Watching couples dancing on that old wooden floor, I couldn’t help smiling and feeling incredibly happy. After all this is Lafayette, the heart of all things Cajun in Louisiana. Many say it is the happiest city in America. I tend to agree.
This prearranged interview with Jimmy was one of several during my four days in Lafayette. He explained the difference between Zydeco and Cajun music; Zydeco is faster and includes a scrub board while Cajun always includes an accordion and fiddle and is much better for dancing. His list of Cajun bests includes food, fun, music, art, and beautiful scenery. He suggested I see nearby Lake Martin. Later I asked Julia, the server, to bring my check. She laughed and said simply, “Lagniappe, love, per Jimmy’s orders it’s on the house!”
Sunrise the next morning found me standing alone in a sizeable sugarcane field. I felt gratitude as I took photographs in perfect light. Then I headed to Lake Martin, a magnificent expanse of over 760 acres of cypress-tupelo swamp that serves as a rookery for herons, egrets, and other significant nesting water birds. This ecosystem also supports alligators, amphibians, and nutria.
The nutria is an invasive species rodent resembling a beaver. Humans trap them, eat them, or harvest their fur, yet they a destructive nuisance in the wetlands. Seeing a live nutria casually going about its daily routine was a first for me. Again, I said a quick thank you to God for allowing me to see that special something extra. Apparently, my Higher Power was providing a little lagniappe of His own that morning.
My early morning solitude over, I sought out a cup of strong coffee. That led to a pleasant conversation with a local named Diane who said the Cajun people are proud of their family and genealogy and welcome new friends into their hearts and homes. She spoke of the wedding custom of pinning money to the bride’s veil before asking her to dance. The custom and the sharing both seemed like gestures of lagniappe. She suggested that I go see the beautiful architecture of the historic downtown area, so I did.
While walking along Vermilion Street, a fabulous old hardware store caught my attention. I stepped closer to read the for-sale sign on the door at the same moment the owner opened it from inside. When he offered to give me a tour of the building even after I had told him I was not in the market to buy, I’m sure my jaw hit the floor. He covered every inch and lovingly explained each detail. The two-story Italianate style was built in 1890 of wood, pressed tin, corrugated metal, and cast iron. Ornate designs in the columns included ribbons and fleur-de-lis. The beauty of the craftsmanship just about made me cry. I thanked him profusely and told him that his kind and caring spirit was a perfect example of lagniappe.
The following morning, I interviewed Cully Firmin, https://www.facebook.com/cully.firmin whose versatility is astounding. Scientifically, Cully designs geothermal sensory devices for computers and cameras. He gave me a shop tour, explaining how his work relates to photography and drilling oil wells. Quite honestly, most of it was way too technical for me.
Artistically, Cully and his wife Angela are award-winning instructors in photography, lighting, modeling, figure drawing, and body painting. We had stimulating discussions about food, art, and entertainment. I met their adorable son Edgar and their dog Lenore. The first lagniappe here was my favorite quote from Cully, “Pursue what you love, but never too much of any one thing.” The second was a cup of hot chai tea with cinnamon.
My next stop was to meet Bonnie Camos, https://www.facebook.com/bonnie.camos a native Lafayette artist and educator. She gave me a hands-on demonstration in her art studio of creating with encaustic wax; the lagniappe was two pieces of art to take home with me. She shared her views on faith, family, food, and fun. Her husband is descended from Joseph Beausolei Broussard one of the first Acadians to reach Louisiana in 1765. Bonnie claims every person has the potential to be an artist and that sometimes “you just have to tease it out of them”. She talked about the wedding veil custom and about sucking crawfish heads. Bonnie said some local artists use the large orange teeth of the nutria in creating jewelry.
She took me on a whirlwind tour of several top shops, markets, and galleries. We discussed the idea of food as art while studying, and then eating, a piece of quiche. I was thrilled and slightly star-struck when she casually introduced me to her friend Dusty, whom I had read about and immediately recognized as the “Cajun Picasso” https://www.facebook.com/TheCajunPicasso/ . He combines Cubism and Folk Art into what he calls “colk art” often incorporating found or recycled objects. Dusty has eaten nutria and does suck crawfish heads. He says strange Rougarou creatures similar to werewolves could exist out in those Louisiana swamps and bayous. Meeting him felt like an extra benefit or a free prize, which is just one more way to define lagniappe.
As we were about to leave, Dusty mentioned that he and several other local artists had painted decorative frogs all over the tiny town of Rayne, about sixteen miles away. Later that same day I drove around viewing those adorable frogs. In a small thrift store there, I spoke with the lady named Lena at the cash register. That brought back wonderful memories of my grandmother, also named Lena. When I told her that Dusty had suggested this town, she put a discount on my purchase and said, “Every little act of lagniappe makes a big difference.”
My last interview in Lafayette was with Clint Hebert, a burly bear of a man with great facial hair and a love of good conversation. His family includes makers and artisans of luxury goods using alligator leather at Mark Staton https://markstatonllc.com/about-us/ . I mean, really, just stop and think about this for a minute. Louisiana, swamps, alligators, and artistry! They produce exceptional exotic items using the world’s most valuable reptile skins in a multitude of colors.
Clint is quite passionate about being a good steward of those skins and local natural resources. He is also keenly interested in food, art, and travel. He would love to someday visit Paris. Clint reports that his French-Canadian ancestors have been traced as far back as 1522. Oh, and that nutria tastes like dark turkey meat. His tip about where to find the best tasting and most artistic food in town was a lagniappe. So was the free tour of the shop. So was the nice discount when I decided to splurge on some alligator skin items.
As my tremendous trip was nearing its end, I reflected on my original goals. I had interviewed all four of my prescheduled contacts and ten others as well. We had the expected conversations about art, customs, food, music, nature, and travel. Additionally, there had been those very unexpected topics including architecture, genealogy, and science. Each interaction had been entertaining and joyful on such a deep level that I will always treasure them in my heart.
What did I learn about lagniappe? The many cultures of Louisiana have blended to form a most fascinating and fun-loving mix. When they take a strong liking to anyone, that lucky person is quite often given special gifts called lagniappe to show affection, appreciation, and a cherished “little something extra”. Lagniappe is gestures of generosity and acts of kindness. It is born of a loving spirit with an inclination to give more, do more, and be more.
Lagniappe is deeper relationships and caring connections. It is a sweet and simple concept that makes a grand and glorious difference; it is thrilling and transformational. Living with the love of lagniappe and choosing to let it loose results in an uncensored and unencumbered freedom. It leads to a fuller awareness that an open heart and open mind can change the world for the better. I learned to embrace my own power of lagniappe and then to exuberantly let it loose upon the planet.
((***Author Note: In this year 2021 many of us who love Mardi Gras are saddened that parades will not roll on as usual. Our thoughts and prayers are with places that have taken a huge blow to travel and tourism. We look forward to happier travels and lagniappe in the future.
Rebecca Martin is the artistic genius behind Becca’s Bakes whose love of baking shows in every custom cake, cupcake, and treat she prepares. She is part of Florida’s Cottage Food industry, a talented group of entrepreneurs who produce and sell products directly from home to consumers while adhering to strict state guidelines.
Baking is her biggest passion, and she does it well. Incredibly, she also works a full-time job and manages to keep up with her husband, three children, and three dogs. When I recently convinced her to take a break and visit me at my home, not only was she sweet and adorable but she also brought cupcakes. Here are the highlights from our interview.
Could you please tell me a little about your background?
I’m a lifelong Tallahassee local. My full-time job is in customer service and I started my part-time baking business in January 2019. I have fond memories of watching my grandmother bake and learning from her. In high school I was in a pie baking club. I’m a baker who loves making sweet treats such as cakes, pies, and brownies.
What do you love most about baking?
The first part is the fun of creativity. Taking random ingredients to produce a finished creation that looks and tastes amazing. The second part is that wonderful look on a customer’s face when they first see what I’ve made. That is especially true when a child has envisioned a specific cake and it has become a reality.
Should people respect cake decorating?
Yes! Cake decorating is an art requiring time, patience, skill, and imagination. It is not for the faint of heart. Intricate details can take hours. Piping must be precise. There must be a balance of flavor. There are tears as well as moments of dread and panic. When the art looks and tastes right, then the result is worth it all. And the customer’s satisfaction is priceless.
How do you spark your creativity?
I like to watch baking competitions on television to see how various items are made. I often try to recreate some of my favorites. An interesting one was a three-tiered cake with a Fortnite theme. My kids can sometimes be my biggest critics. When they say it looks great then I know other kids will love it. I get creative with flavor combinations or trying gluten-free and Keto recipes.
Which are you most passionate about: food, music, or art?
Well, that sure is a tough question. I play piano and saxophone and love to sing. My favorites music would be either jazz or indie with a folk twist. I feel that the food I make is art. I am also an avid gardener and nature lover. My edible garden includes tomatoes, peppers, onions, and a banana tree. I also have a butterfly and bee garden.
What do you envision as “food as art”?
I see a perfectly balanced table set up beautifully with a wide assortment of food. It is so visually stunning that I might feel bad to mess it up by eating any.
Do you have any other thoughts to share about your baking?
Clients will often surprise me by requesting unusual ingredients like prunes and that becomes part of the creative challenge. I like to get a two-week notice so I can take my time making sure it has pleasing flavors and is not too dry. In a way it would be fun to be on a TV baking show, but I would feel too rushed and fear the dish would lack quality. I love my two stand mixers and my bucket list item is a sugar printer. I could totally see opening a small bakery in a few years.
What do you want others to know about your hometown?
Tallahassee, Florida is a great travel destination because we have a lot of history. It was the first home of the Apalachee Indian tribe. It is also home of two great colleges, FSU and FAMU. Just to the South of here is Wakulla Springs where the original “Creature of the Black Lagoon” was filmed.
What other destinations interest you?
When I was growing up my family often went to the Tennessee towns of Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge. Those mountains seemed like a second home. I would love to take my husband and children there to create new memories. I have never traveled abroad, but when I do my first adventure will be Scotland.
What is the most fun thing you have ever done?
Playing tenor sax in my high school marching band was an incredible experience. We perfected our music and choreography for months, then played to large audiences all over Florida. At one point I even marched with a broken foot. We felt like a family and I look back fondly on those times.
What would you like to share about your family?
My wonderful husband is a sweet teddy bear who makes me laugh so much. The day after I met him, he came over to rescue me from lizards (which I have an unnatural fear of). That’s when I knew he was a keeper! He is a tech type, and we love watching Star Trek and Star Wars. He will get up at 4am to put meat on his fancy smoker.
My kids are 12, 9, and 4…and just the absolute best! They enjoy helping in the kitchen and give great feedback on my creations. My friends and large extended family are an excellent support system that I cherish.
What makes you an exuberant person?
My husband would say that I am compassionate, big-hearted, and caring. I prefer to say high-spirited, bubbly, and inquisitive. I try to be positive and honest. I can find the silver lining in any situation.
What is your message to the world?
Smile more, live more, love more. Be the change we so desperately need.
Memories are precious and evoke deep emotions. The widest variety of things can call to mind a memory. While some can be sad, I choose to SHARE and focus on the good!
If I ask you about your favorite movie, you might be able to recall and SHARE amazing details about what year you saw it, who you were with, and how it made you feel. If I ask about your favorite football team, you might go on about the first time you saw them in person or how you celebrated their last big win.
So HERE is a little mental memory magic for you. I’m about to take just five Southern States and list just seven Towns from each one. I want YOU to ponder each one individually. Have you ever been there? Did you experience any special and spectacular events there?
Swirl it around in your brain. Allow all sorts of memories to swim around until a couple of your favorites float to the top and start waving at you. Now, can you pick just ONE amazing memory to SHARE? (Pretty please!!) Dang, y’all…this will be SO fascinating!!!
To how many of these places have you been? (Let me brag for just one moment, I’ve been to ALL of them & will SHARE many of those memories over the next year.) Which ones brought back your most immediate and vivid memories?
In the year 1788, the poet and lyricist Robert Burns sent a copy of an ancient song to the Scots Musical Museum. He included a note explaining that the song had never been in print before yet has significance.
Whether you are descended from the sentimental Scots or not, I suspect that this sweet old song does tug on your heart strings. Here in the USA we typically reserve this special song for New Year’s Eve celebrations.
“Should old acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind, Should old acquaintance be forgot and auld lang syne. For auld lang syne my dear, for auld lang syne, we’ll take a cup of kindness yet for auld lang syne!”
The dear old song speaks to us about the value of holding on to precious memories and cherished friendships. It seems to point out the universal joy of sharing a drink and a bit of nostalgia with friends and loved ones.
Yes, I KNOW! Our December 31, 2020 “party” will certainly have a different look. Smaller numbers will venture out to the bars if any are even open. Smaller numbers will gather in homes, perhaps some will even do virtual gatherings online.
Yet in our hearts we will all be together. We may shed a tear for those we lost this year. We may vow that much better times are ahead. We will absolutely look forward to new opportunities in a new year filled with new reasons to celebrate.
My sincere hope is that each one of us will go courageously forward into 2021, remembering and renewing our friendships. Let us choose love and kindness. Let us choose to raise a glass and make a toast to old times’ sake.
Yes, I know most people have been moaning and groaning for the entire strange year. Well, darlin’, y’all just ought to know by now that I am NOT most people! My favorite word is exuberant, and that is how I choose to look back on this weirdest of years.
I celebrate dear friends who survived cancer, friends who survived kidney stones and broken bones and hurricanes. I celebrate dear friends who used it as a time to get creative with music, writing, photography, painting, and woodwork. I celebrate that everyone who reads this has survived elections and the pandemic.
I appreciate the wonderful people who gifted me roses, slippers, travel bags, and a girl’s night out at a favorite restaurant. I even more deeply appreciate the special ones who built a handmade bookcase, gifted me beautiful jewelry, washed my car, and restored my antique trunk.
Here are just a few things I managed to accomplish in 2020. I survived some broken teeth and a broken wrist. I did a lot of book reading and took several online courses. I learned new technology and launched my own website https://embracesouthernstates.com/ … on which I have posted many travel stories and local interviews. Travel articles I actually got paid for have included info on Louisiana, Mississippi, and Florida.
I made many new friends and one of them interviewed me on her podcast. I made my first ever Facebook video. I made my first ever batch of gluten-free cookies. I painted some artwork and participated in a Pop-Up Art Gallery. On a different “painting” note, I painted my bedroom furniture in a Mardi Gras theme of purple, green, and gold.
Currently I am doing a lot of research and “tasting” for some upcoming food articles. I am watching as much SEC football as possible. My four favorite teams have always been (and always will be) Georgia Bulldogs, Alabama Crimson Tide, Ole Miss Rebels, and LSU Tigers.
I am still learning technology. Does anyone really understand SEO and how to get backlinks? If so, please explain it to me in simple words!!
As I look back over all of this…there has been much success and much cause to rejoice. No, it has not all been puppies and rainbows…but I remain positive. I continue to make a conscious choice to celebrate every little thing…and to be a joyful person.
As the year 2020 is drawing to a close, I wish you a Merry Christmas. I also wish you the biggest, boldest, brightest BADASS year in 2021!!
If you wish to do so…PLEASE share reasons that YOU choose to celebrate and to be joyful. That would be awesome!
An aging diva is a woman “of a certain age”, but what on earth does that even mean in today’s world? There was a time when it meant that she was past her prime and no longer active or vibrant. She certainly would have lost all interest in laughing, having fun, or having the courage to go out on a date.
Thank goodness for Gloria Darling. She is a Milestone Diva who pours her heart into helping women celebrate their life and find their voice. She seeks to use a little tough love while reminding them that they are still relevant and still deserve to pursue their dreams and passions, at any age. She inspires the older and bolder ladies to be loud and proud!
Could you please tell us a bit about your background?
My birthplace was the Bahamas, and I grew up in Miami, Florida. I have lived in Tallahassee for almost 24 years. I am a black woman in my sassy 60s. I have three sons, one grandson, and two great-grandchildren. I will soon be retiring from my full-time job and be free to focus more attention on “The Cup of Glo”.
What is “The Cup of Glo”?
It is my new project that I started in March (2020), a podcast ( https://cupofglo.com ) in which I interview other Milestone Diva ladies over age 50 who are learning to embrace their unique power. That means that they manifest confidence, boldness, enthusiasm, playfulness, and wisdom. They have been able to discover their talents and abilities and are able to share those in wonderful ways.
Taking this podcast idea, developing every nuance and bringing it to life has been such an exciting creative journey. I don’t have enough words to describe my enthusiasm for this labor of love.
Would you explain this idea of Milestone Divas?
This simply means they have reached a new and wonderful age: Feisty 50s, Sassy 60s, Saucy 70s, Exciting 80s, Nifty 90s, or Awesome 100s. We even have a Milestone Diva cheer:
Feisty, Sassy, Saucy are we
Exciting, Nifty and Awesome you see
Every second, minute or hour
Bold, wise owning our power,
In tees and jeans or a fancy frock
Milestone Divas Rock!
It is obvious that you really love Milestone Divas. I’ve also heard that you dearly love Tallahassee. What do you cherish most about Tallahassee?
The feeling of a kind and caring small town where community and natural beauty are appreciated. We are blessed with so many amazing parks where one can be as active or as relaxed as they choose, while also enjoying the enormous old oak trees, Spanish moss, and countless types of flowering plants.
There are so many opportunities for folks to meet, get to know one another, and develop meaningful friendships. Just look online to find a meet-up group for any number of interests, then jump in and get involved. You merely have to take that first step and connect with like-minded individuals to meet, talk, eat, sing, dance, or whatever matches the desires of your heart.
What travel destinations have you visited or plan to visit?
One of the best road trips of my life was going with a group of belly dance buddies to Asheville, North Carolina. We stayed in cabins and met another group there who were involved in Renaissance fair activities. We enjoyed workshops and shopping and excellent fellowship. It was a much-needed diversion and a perfect sense of release.
An area I love and would definitely visit again is the Pacific Northwest. The towns of Portland and Astoria in Oregon and the town of Seattle, Washington are simply gorgeous and fascinating. There are several places I would eventually like to visit and the one place which is currently at the top of my bucket list would be Spain.
What are some of your passions and hobbies?
Where do I even start? I love music and art. I love food with flair. That could mean using tips I got from some TV cooking show, or just trying to add more color to a simple family meal. For example, start with oxtails and cabbage. Then add peas, carrots, and rice. Heck, throw in some seafood to really make it pop.
I am active in a dance troupe. We do many types of dance including belly dance, hula, tribal, and flamenco. At times when I take a short break from dancing, I will occasionally play the frame drum in a band which accompanies the belly dancers.
For about the past five years I have been active in Toastmasters, an organization that helps people develop public speaking and leadership skills. I have competed and won several contests at their club, area, and district levels.
What makes you an exuberant person?
Life gives me a choice. I can focus on pain and sadness or I can focus on enthusiasm and joy. I have made the choice… I choose ENTHUSIASM and JOY! I am fun, happy, and liberated. I can get tough when I need to help others, but I’m still respectable and authentic. I am a servant leader who is comfortable discussing any topic with any person. I place a high value on honesty and on friendship.
Do you have a message for the world?
Celebrate! Celebrate everything! Celebrate yourself by learning to claim your power at any age. Celebrate the things that you have, such as friendships and hobbies. Celebrate all the beauty that can be seen around you. Celebrate every little moment of fun, freedom, love, and joy. Celebrate LIFE!
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When this writer first met Gloria, I knew I had just made a wonderful new friend. We sat out on the deck of a coffee shop chatting contentedly, until a sudden downpour forced us to finish the conversation in my car. That did nothing to dampen our spirits. We have a shared value of curiosity and communication.
Gloria Darling thrives on serving people. She finds deep joy in helping older women find and use their voice and their power. https://cupofglo.com/